The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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The Same Question Twice
Garrett Moore led a session on parkour and politics at the 2022 Art of Retreat, then offered a test for a hard conversation: if you cannot genuinely ask where the other person is coming from, wait until you can. He also said the best outcome is often the other person wondering why you hold your… More →
Whoever Keeps It
In 2021, Jule Kucera hosted a podcast with a motto: vulnerability is okay, nakedness is not. It sounds like a rule for the speaker, but it was a test for the host. Kucera cut a half-second sound, between a gasp and a sob, from a guest who had worked not to cry. A motto does… More →
Sorry to No One
Near the end of a 2023 episode, Craig Constantine, who publishes these field notes, apologized to his listeners for months of slacking on his weekly writing. His guest, Tom Huntington, asked a rhetorical question: who are you saying sorry to? An apology ordinarily names someone who can accept it. This one went to everyone, and… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.