The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Hundreds of One-Offs
William Isaacs wrote that once awakened, people do not go back to sleep. Jesse Danger brings the line to Craig Constantine, who has hundreds of deep recorded conversations behind him and cannot find the phenomenon in his own experience. His were one-offs. What Danger’s Denmark semester had, and Constantine’s recordings did not, was a calendar.… More →
The Opposite of Adversity
Ask for the opposite of adversity and most of us reach for ease. Craig Constantine lands somewhere stranger: challenge. Both are hard — the real axis isn’t easy versus difficult but fruitful versus sterile. Adversity is the hardness that closes a conversation; challenge is the hardness that opens it. What sorts a shove into one… More →
The Third Seat
Almost everything we believe about good conversation quietly assumes two people. The moment a third person enters, the physics change. Craig Constantine describes how three guests turn into a cocktail party he didn’t get invited to. The triad offers a seat the dyad can’t: the witness, where you can fall silent without withdrawing. The seat… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.