The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Nobody to Call the Game
In capoeira, two players trade kicks and escapes inside a ring of singers, and when one stops responding, someone else calls the game. Paul Graves learned to hold a conversation there. Talk has no such call. A monologue can pass for a dialogue, and the only people positioned to end a one-sided conversation are the… More →
Talking At
We file the person who will not stop talking under self-absorbed. Craig Constantine, who publishes these field notes, gives an account of his own over-talking that makes that untenable. He watches your micro-expressions, reading your face for the verdict he is trying to outrun. Context is not a route to the point but the postponement… More →
Nothing to Play Back
Julie Angel judges a conversation by whether she can still tell you what it was about. If she cannot, it was good. Karen Morgan records her stand-up sets and finds lines she never wrote and does not remember, often the funniest ones. Morgan is not Angel’s rebuttal but her evidence: the best material comes from… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.