In 2022, Matthew Jensen co-hosted a podcast with a friend named Mike. Jensen knew the subjects they talked about, and said so: “I’m a nerd about them. And I’ve been obsessed with them for years.” Mike was not a subject expert, and had taken up the part that seems to follow from that.

“I think that I like to push Mike a little bit more to share what he thinks about, because Mike views himself as maybe more the host that asks the questions, and I like the back and forth.”

The one who knows less asks, on behalf of every listener who also knows less, and the one who knows more answers. It is modest and it is useful, and nobody had to assign it.

Yet Jensen’s description of their best conversations does not mention Mike’s questions. The best ones came, Jensen said, “when he’s actively learning something or has different perspectives on stuff.” Neither of those is a question. The second is Mike’s own view, the thing Jensen pushed Mike to share.

What the non-expert brings is not only a gap. Years of obsession with a subject had given Jensen nearly everything about it except the one view that obsession forecloses, the view from outside it. Mike’s distance from the topics is a kind of knowledge, and of the two co-hosts, Mike alone holds it. The asking role keeps exactly that back. A question shows what someone wants to know. It does not show what they think.

Jensen’s way of getting Mike’s view into the conversation was to push Mike to share it, and a push is needed only where something stands in the way. Leaving the asking role without an invitation is hard, since leaving means offering a view on a subject the other person has spent years on. So the invitation has to keep coming from the side that knows more.

Jensen had a stake in Mike’s view too, and called the exchange “a really good learning experience of how to communicate stuff like that to someone who’s not necessarily a subject matter expert.” What the other person makes of an explanation shows whether it landed. A follow-up question shows some of that. Mike’s own view of the subject shows a good deal more.

The asking role feels like the humble way to take part, and that is what keeps it in place, because humility does not look like withholding. The one asking is doing what the role seems to ask. The one answering has good questions to answer. Anyone listening hears a good conversation. Nothing in the arrangement announces that the view only the asker holds has gone unspoken. It shows afterward, if at all, in which conversations turn out to be the best.

This field note references the Podtalk episode “Exploration with Matthew Jensen,” published May 26, 2022.

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