Great conversations require intention and effort

The difference between the negativity of bait, and the high road of a good lure is our intention.

It’s true that good conversation might be stumbled into. But if we desire good conversation, then we’re going to need to seek it. Good conversation can be found, and even directly cultivated, by taking our desire seriously.

Anyone, no matter who he is, will talk if he is encouraged to speak on a topic in which he is really interested. You must catch that interest. To do this, it may be necessary for you to indulge in a bit of fishing.

The bait you use is a question. if the other man rises to it and shows real interest, your conversation has started. If not, then you must try some other lure.

~ Milton Wright, The Art of Conversation, p24

Bait has a negative connotation. But this is only a metaphor. If we are honestly interested in drawing out the other person— If we are interested in seeing them in their best light, then the correct lure is exactly what we need. The difference between the negativity of bait, and the high road of a good lure is our intention.

How hard are you willing to work to create a great conversation?

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