Craig Constantine
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The resources of others
In conversation we can help others be their best selves Focusing on these small things frees me from trying to imagine what is the big picture we’re creating. There are so many things we could pursue in any conversation: Learning, discovery, helping our partner, even fame. So it’s wise to pick something to use as… More →
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Being genuine
Releasing preconceptions can lead to delight. “We have little chance of being creative if we know, or think we know, where things are headed.” In conversation we find tension within ourselves from our competing desires to lead and to follow. For genuine connection to develop, we must release our preconceptions of who the other person… More →
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Being genuine
Releasing preconceptions can lead to delight. We have little chance of being creative if we know, or think we know, where things are headed. In conversation we find tension within ourselves from our competing desires to lead and to follow. For genuine connection to develop, we must release our preconceptions of who the other person… More →
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Power of vistas
Encountering vistas changes us. ” “What do we want to create together?” presents a vista. We figuratively stand here and now with our partner, and we look forward to the future.” We can change ourselves and our partners in conversation by presenting a vista. Read the article… More →
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The power of vistas
Encountering vistas changes us. “What do we want to create together?” presents a vista. We figuratively stand here and now with our partner, and we look forward to the future. Physically encountering vistas changes us. We shift the direction we are facing, and at what distance our eyes are focused. We take a deep breath,… More →
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Community
Book Community by Peter Block, 2018 — As a response to the increasing violence in our culture, the widening ideological divides, and the growing gap in economic well-being, there is greater awareness that a deeper sense of community is desperately needed. But even as we acknowledge the need to build community, the dominant on-the-ground practices about how… More →
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Generous silence
Silence can be an active process of giving. “When we choose silence, we’re giving the other person our own time to process their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without feeling rushed or judged.” Silence is not simply waiting to speak; it can be an active process of giving. There is so much that can be conveyed… More →
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Generous silence
Silence can be an active process of giving. When we choose silence, we’re giving the other person our own time to process their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without feeling rushed or judged. Silence is not simply waiting to speak; it can be an active process of giving. There is so much that can be conveyed… More →
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Normal conversations too
Getting better at conversation is not just for special conversations. “My goal is simply to make every conversation I have better than yesteryear-me would have done with it.” To improve, we have to decide first how we’d like our conversations to be different. Improving our (and those we converse with’s) sense of connection is a… More →
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Normal conversations too
Getting better at conversation is not just for special conversations. My goal is simply to make every conversation I have better than yesteryear-me would have done with it. To improve, we have to decide first how we’d like our conversations to be different. Improving our (and those we converse with’s) sense of connection is a… More →