Craig Constantine
The Architecture of Connection
Some people carry an invisible map of relationships, seeing bridges where others see isolated islands. Leticia Latino van Splunteren calls connecting people her superpower—but natural connectors don’t create potential for connection, they simply see it more clearly. Every conversation contains threads to other conversations. The invisible architecture of relationships exists whether we notice it or… More →
The Resonance Test
Someone reconnected with Mary Chan after a long silence—not to catch up, just to ask a favor. The problem isn’t asking. The problem is that asking reveals what was never there. The relationships worth having are the ones where the conversation never really stops. Everything else is just networking—mutual extraction with better manners. More →
Generosity Without The Ledger
Robin Waite helped direct six hundred lost people at an event—dumped his coat and started helping, though he wasn’t staff. This led to opportunities worth hundreds of thousands. But he’s clear: “The moment I make it about me and my mortgage, it’s gone.” People sense when you’re keeping a ledger. You can’t strategize your way… More →
When Control Kills the Conversation
Jeff Revilla runs a podcast theater and has noticed a pattern: the most prepared hosts struggle. They’ve written monologues and scripted jokes—and it bombs. They’re not in the moment. Control optimizes against the spontaneity that makes conversation alive. The audience can sense when someone is genuinely responding versus executing a plan. Structure helps, but scripting… More →
Foundation before freedom
Tracy Hazzard learned at RISD that you need foundation before you earn the right to break rules. Innovation comes from understanding deeply how something works, then figuring out a new way around it. This applies to conversation: someone who hasn’t internalized fundamentals like listening or allowing silence looks chaotic when attempting spontaneity. Foundation doesn’t constrain… More →
The invitation of doubt
Cassian Bellino started her podcast from not knowing—wanting to believe but unable to through blind acceptance. She discovered God invites questions, not just tolerates them. Her doubt wasn’t an obstacle to connection but the connection itself. When she approached scholars with genuine uncertainty, they responded with openness. Certainty closes things down. Doubt creates space where… More →
The real foundation
Tim Winders has published weekly for over six years despite the work being financially negative. The real foundation? The conversations nourish his soul. This is counterintuitive—we think good dialogue means disappearing into attentiveness for others. But being fed by the conversation yourself makes genuine dialogue sustainable. When we’re genuinely nourished, we’re not performing generosity but… More →
Worth doing badly
David Wilson describes himself as a recovering perfectionist who realized that if a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly and playfully. Wilson calls it addiction to competence—we become so identified with being capable that we lose the ability to try things we might be bad at. What if the willingness to converse… More →
The open question
Stany Foucher’s training sessions always ended with open questions from his teacher—not answers or corrections, but questions like “why were you in that state of mind?” that resisted easy resolution. The open question doesn’t close the training but extends it. The question travels with you, working on you long after. What if the best conversations… More →
When effort gets in the way
Nima King demonstrates something counterintuitive at his seminars: when he releases tension in his outstretched arm, the movement becomes not weaker but stronger—effortless yet difficult to stop. This suggests effort itself can become the obstacle. Applied to conversation, subtraction might mean letting go of the need to sound smart, fill every silence, or extract particular… More →